Relaxation and reframing productivity As I get older I find I need more time to myself to unwind and relax, otherwise I feel like I'm figuratively climbing the walls. There is a lot of societal pressure be productive, even though it's unable to keep up with the standards set by society without reaching burn out at some point. But as disabled folx we can't keep up and yet we feel we have to meet these expectations or exceed them to over compensate due to the belief we have to "make up for" the fact we're disabled. However this is internalised ableism talking, we don't have to make up for anything we enough as we are, and our worth isn't dependent on how stereotypically productive we are. Besides, productivity looks different for everyone - and in my opinion if you're looking after yourself, this is a form of productivity which is worthy of acknowledgement and self praise just as much as the additional stuff. So if you want to watch netflix to unwind, it's just as productive as unwinding with some yoga or taking a walk if the results are as effective, but we have to do what our energy levels dictate as opposed to what we perceive is expected of us.
Valentine's day is approaching, and whether you choose to celebrate it or not - either that be with a partner, or put a platonic twist on it and have a fun filled day to celebrate your love for your best friend, it's always nice to ensure you have put thought and effort into the way you choose to share your love and affection. I like to think I'm a good gift giver, and I absolutely love celebratory holidays, therefore I thought it wise to share some suggestions I have for a fellow spoonie in your life, with an emphasis on independent businesses.
I am aware that the vast majority of people who have been actively engaging with my content, are involved in the chronic illness/disabled community - and like every single disabled/less abled person I've had the pleasure of talking with, I have experienced difficulties navigating interabled friendships and relationships in the past, purely because of the lack of understanding, and societal ableism which resides in those who haven't had personal experience with disability prior to the friendship.
[Image description: pale pink background with black bold heading reading 'change', beneath it in a handwriting font reads 'isn't always a bad thing'. There is a black illustration of a wildflower on the left hand side.] Hello my lovelies, As you may know if you have read my recent blog post titled 'politicizing disabled bodies' [...]
Hello my lovely folx, how are you all doing today? I know it has been long time, no see here on the blog - but that's a topic for another time entirely. As today, I bring frustrating and angering news relating to my IG account, and the action taken by the platform to censor yet [...]
As a disabled womxn I oftentimes used to feel left out of the conversations regarding sex, relationships, and sexual health. So earlier this year I took it upon myself to change that in a small capacity, not just for myself- but with the hope that it would serve as representation in a small way for [...]
I write today regarding my project, which aims to provide a platform for individuals to join the conversation about sexuality and sexual health as a disabled person; as there is a significant lack of disabled representation in discussions surrounding these topics. Sexual wellbeing and owning our sexuality is just as important as any other aspect of health and wellness[...]
I slowly began to hate using my walking stick, crutches, walking frame, and wheelchair - I failed to invest in my comfort and sense of self-expression because I was living in a state of denial. I didn't WANT to think of a future with mobility aids; it felt like I would be giving in.
May 9 - "This past weekend has been rough - my body feels like it's falling apart beneath my skin, uncontrollable; fighting against itself - the epitome of connective tissue disorder." Warm weather is a rarity in northern England, so I try my very best to go into the garden whenever my PoTS and ME [...]
"How have your disabilities affected your relationships?" To understand how my relationships have been affected as a result of my disabilities, it's important to understand that my conditions have caused a shift in my relationship with myself. Chronic pain is difficult - the constant struggle to get through the days, some easier to navigate than [...]