My relationship with my sexuality has always been disorganized, even before I became legitimately disabled by my conditions. I grew up feeling like I needed to fit into a mold I wasn't shaped for, and a body I didn't even understand was objectified by many people around me from a young age.
Relaxation and reframing productivity As I get older I find I need more time to myself to unwind and relax, otherwise I feel like I'm figuratively climbing the walls. There is a lot of societal pressure be productive, even though it's unable to keep up with the standards set by society without reaching burn out at some point. But as disabled folx we can't keep up and yet we feel we have to meet these expectations or exceed them to over compensate due to the belief we have to "make up for" the fact we're disabled. However this is internalised ableism talking, we don't have to make up for anything we enough as we are, and our worth isn't dependent on how stereotypically productive we are. Besides, productivity looks different for everyone - and in my opinion if you're looking after yourself, this is a form of productivity which is worthy of acknowledgement and self praise just as much as the additional stuff. So if you want to watch netflix to unwind, it's just as productive as unwinding with some yoga or taking a walk if the results are as effective, but we have to do what our energy levels dictate as opposed to what we perceive is expected of us.
Valentine's day is approaching, and whether you choose to celebrate it or not - either that be with a partner, or put a platonic twist on it and have a fun filled day to celebrate your love for your best friend, it's always nice to ensure you have put thought and effort into the way you choose to share your love and affection. I like to think I'm a good gift giver, and I absolutely love celebratory holidays, therefore I thought it wise to share some suggestions I have for a fellow spoonie in your life, with an emphasis on independent businesses.
Hello my lovely folx, how are you all doing today? I know it has been long time, no see here on the blog - but that's a topic for another time entirely. As today, I bring frustrating and angering news relating to my IG account, and the action taken by the platform to censor yet [...]
May 9 - "This past weekend has been rough - my body feels like it's falling apart beneath my skin, uncontrollable; fighting against itself - the epitome of connective tissue disorder." Warm weather is a rarity in northern England, so I try my very best to go into the garden whenever my PoTS and ME [...]
I think we can all simultaneously agree that it has been a difficult few months, as we're navigating a situation which the majority of us have never experienced before. At first it seemed almost surreal, like it was a strange parallel dystopian universe - however now it's something that I am finding myself slowly [...]
Hello Blooms this blog post is going to be regarding how the pandemic has affected me, and how I'm trying to stay sane. A few days ago I published 'Head above water' in which I discussed the importance of safeguarding the vulnerable, and I received a positive response - so I must thank you for [...]
My love for writing has been a constant throughout my life, however, it wasn't until March 2018 that I decided to turn this passion into an active hobby in order to share my experience with issues concerning topics close to my heart. Fast-forward to the present day and I have had the privilege of meeting [...]
Hello Blooms, Firstly, I wish to take a moment to thank the individuals who reached out and said such positive things about my last blog post, Journaling and Riding the Depression Wave (w/ exercises). Secondly, you'll be pleased to know storm Doris has come to an end and it goes without saying I am beyond [...]
Hello Blooms, This shall be kept short and sweet as I haven't much to say other than happy new year, and I hope y'all had a fabulous Christmas (if you celebrate that is). 2019 was a rollercoaster of a year, as many years are for people with chronic illness and mental health difficulties. However, overall [...]