My relationship with my sexuality has always been disorganized, even before I became legitimately disabled by my conditions. I grew up feeling like I needed to fit into a mold I wasn't shaped for, and a body I didn't even understand was objectified by many people around me from a young age.
I am aware that the vast majority of people who have been actively engaging with my content, are involved in the chronic illness/disabled community - and like every single disabled/less abled person I've had the pleasure of talking with, I have experienced difficulties navigating interabled friendships and relationships in the past, purely because of the lack of understanding, and societal ableism which resides in those who haven't had personal experience with disability prior to the friendship.
As I get back on my feet (or wheels so to speak), I feel it to be even more pressing to share ways to support creators -in particular disabled creators; as the social media algorithms appear to be either inadvertently or intentionally targeting the community.
Hello my lovely folx, how are you all doing today? I know it has been long time, no see here on the blog - but that's a topic for another time entirely. As today, I bring frustrating and angering news relating to my IG account, and the action taken by the platform to censor yet [...]
Hello, my name’s Lori- AKA ‘Bud to Bloom’, a UK based disability, and mental health blogger living with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, ME, and a host of other comorbidities. My journey with chronic illness started at age 13, and like many spoonie warriors it appeared to come from nowhere. However after a few years I was [...]
As a young girl I spent a lot of time daydreaming about the future, my future - and how perfect everything was going to be 'by then'. Watching cheesy American teen movies about the toils of high school students for rich, white, and straight cis women gave me a highly unrealistic expectation of what my [...]
I slowly began to hate using my walking stick, crutches, walking frame, and wheelchair - I failed to invest in my comfort and sense of self-expression because I was living in a state of denial. I didn't WANT to think of a future with mobility aids; it felt like I would be giving in.
May 9 - "This past weekend has been rough - my body feels like it's falling apart beneath my skin, uncontrollable; fighting against itself - the epitome of connective tissue disorder." Warm weather is a rarity in northern England, so I try my very best to go into the garden whenever my PoTS and ME [...]
"How have your disabilities affected your relationships?" To understand how my relationships have been affected as a result of my disabilities, it's important to understand that my conditions have caused a shift in my relationship with myself. Chronic pain is difficult - the constant struggle to get through the days, some easier to navigate than [...]
In March and April I had the amazing opportunity to write blog posts for Intimately - an accessible and inclusive underwear company. Both posts centred around sex with disability - the first about embracing one's sexuality with a disability, and the second about navigating sex with disability. Photo credit: Hannah Todd Photography This blog post [...]